“It was the first night we spent together that we didn’t drink. I’m not sure why it all started with Zoya—I guess it kind of made sense but also..? The writing is very...something. It was hard not to compare Durham's gender evolution to my own, and be grateful for the comparative quietness and gentleness of my own journey. The Supreme Court ruled in Windsor’s favor in the landmark case that paved the way for marriage equality in the U.S. Called an inspiration and “badass” by President Obama, Wambach is not only a world-class athlete, but an activist for equal rights. My wish for Cyrus going forward? Abby Stein is thought to be the first openly transgender woman raised in a Hasidic community. Welcome back.
It was interesting to read something to introspective while self-quarantining. In “Boy Erased,” Garrad Conley tells a haunting account about his childhood in a fundamentalist Arkansas family that forced him to undertake conversion therapy. Glimpses of Dunham’s torturous childhood contrast with their more recent obsession with the male physique; they focus on how to appear more like a man, while still struggling to provide a name for themselves in the excruciating instances in which they must. There was a problem saving your notification. So, I felt equal parts bewildered and hurt while reading this. Their self-awareness is fascinating and reading from their perspective makes me want to be more honest with myself. Durham's life seems unmoored by responsibilities, as neither jobs or school commitments are mentioned between a trip to India, time spent in their parents house on the East Coast, their shared queer apartment in Los Angeles, and road trips up to the Bay Area.
--Mary KarrFor as long as they can remember, Cyrus Grace Dunham felt like a visitor in their own body. At times I found them a little pretentious but overall this was really great.
“I think it is really important for me to speak about things I talk about in this book, so I think it was the right thing to do,” he said. And the academic vocabulary that sprawled across the pages like kudzu was irritating. Prior to the beginning of the narrative shown here, Durham had already been diagnosed with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder and generalized anxiety. After Conley was outed as gay in college, he was given a choice: be disowned or go through complete conversion therapy — a practice widely discredited as ineffective and harmful by medical practioners. While the work is technically a memoir, it also incorporates elements of romance, science fiction, westerns, etc. it completely sucked me in and whirled me around. For me, this part hurt the most.
It wasn't very insightful into a transgender experience. October 15th 2019 firstname.lastname@example.org, Daily Emerald, published by Emerald Media Group • 1395 University St. Suite 302 • Eugene, OR • 97403 / Terms / Privacy / Copyright © 1996-2020, All Rights Reserved.
But that was conspicuously left out. In their first book, “A Year Without a Name,” Cyrus Grace Dunham presents a poignant memoir.
What if one can only speak -- only think -- what one suspects another person wants to hear?
In “A Year Without a Name,” Dunham is bold enough to bare even the most harrowing and horrifying moments of their experience as a transgender man in today’s world.
They lay bare their failed attempts at self-definition through desire and worship of others, a string of passionate romances that bleed into each other, often twisted with jealousy and fear. Even with Cyrus Grace narrating their own story, I never felt any connection or intimacy, which usually happens with author-narrated memoir. A lot of the narration felt forced and pretentious.
But the memoir’s genre-bending form is only one way in which Machado — who also penned “Her Body and Other Parts” — unsettles the reader in this story when it comes to reclaiming the parts of yourself that have grown most alien. Then where is the truth? It is raw, honest, uncomfortable writing. With one lover, “She wrote and I read next to her; every fifteen minutes or so, she’d take a break and kiss me on the cheek,” Dunham writes. “Any time I reached a point in writing where I felt like I was better, I would just go back to a place of extreme doubt again. For as long as they can remember, Cyrus Grace Dunham felt like a visitor in their own body. When they write about things with which I can relate, I dive back into my own disassociation I have with my body, the anxious thoughts about whether I am "really" trans or am doing too much or not enough to transition. Throughout the book, Dunham becomes more and more able to articulate their identity, eventually settling on the term transgender. Gwen Aviles is a trending news and culture reporter for NBC News. There is nothing like reading a history or biography book and being so completely transported to another time and place that you find... To see what your friends thought of this book. 303
It is raw, honest, uncomfortable writing. This/they are so brave. And the academic vocabulary that sprawled across the pages like kudzu was irritating. I also have a vagina, which makes people think I'm a woman. This is the story of their search for a new name. They acknowledge it but it was still hard for me to read without becoming distracted by it. I hope Cyrus Grace writes a memoir twenty years from now, and that the future book will be less therapy and more literature. Intimate partner violence, which can include physical, emotional and psychological abuse, affects more than 12 million people each year, according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Wanting to be literary? Cyrus Grace Dunham, Lena Dunham’s younger sibling, provides an intimate portrait of gender, queerness and desire in “A Year Without a Name.” Dunham writes about his gender transition and the uncertainty that accompanied it. They did such a wonderful job conveying their experience of their gender throughout their life generally and as they transitioned in particular and I really enjoyed reading about how they parse out their complex feelings on masculinity and manhood.
So, three stars-- for pretension speckled with some true wisdom.
I’m so grateful to have spent time with it. Kathy Carbone (541) 346-5511 Ext. Even with Cyrus Grace narrating their own story, I never felt any connection or intimacy, which usuall. I am not sure what a cis person would feel, or a trans person who frames their transition differently than I do (of which there are many). To do this, to find themselves. Dunham compels the reader to begin to understand the daily struggle that comes with identifying as beyond the gender binary. I received an ARC from the publisher in exchange for an honest review; opinions are my own. When Dunham writes about parts about their "gender journey," so to speak, that I can only relate to intellectually, I question why they included that portion, feel some kind of disgust. 327 Nov. 6, 2019.