I liked this book a lot but I wish it would have had more concrete suggestions of how to protect the emotional life of boys interspersed throughout instead of waiting until the last chapter. I particularly found the chapters on fathers, mothers, and causes of violence interesting and useful. There is much we can do to prevent it. There is much we can do to prevent it. Copyright © 2020 Apple Inc. All rights reserved. They identify the social and emotional challenges that boys encounter in school and show how parents can help boys cultivate emotional awareness and empathy—giving them the vital connections and support they need to navigate the social pressures of youth.Powerfully written and deeply felt, Raising Cain will forever change the way we see our sons and will transform the way we help them to become happy and fulfilled young men. Raising Cain has been an eye-opening read, albeit certainly not a comforting one. Through moving case studies and cutting-edge research, Raising Cain paints a portrait of boys systematically steered away from their emotional lives by adults and the peer “culture of cruelty”—boys who receive little encouragement to develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth.

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As the authors describe, every boy in this culture of cruelty suffers, even those who on the top, and the only thing they can do is to hide their hurt since admit it means weakness, as the author mentions:”A boy lives in a narrowly defined world…in which everything he does or thinks is judged on the basis of the strength or weakness it represents: you are either strong and worthwhile, or weak and worthless”(298) and in some cases boys will be labeled as girls once they showed their weakness, and “To be labeled a girl…is the most humiliating thing that can happen to a boy.”(299) However, although cruel, this culture of cruelty actually makes a great contribution to a man’s life and help to shape a real man as it forces boys to “be willing to fight”(298) for themselves.

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The book ... Consulter l'avis complet. What cultural shifts help to create such a situation? Some critics have seen Raising Cain as part of the so-called boys movement that arose in response to the girls movement engendered by the popularity of Mary Pipher's Reviving Ophelia.

Consulter l'avis complet, This is definitely worth reading if you have anything at all to do with influencing boys. Expectedly, they are both considered as girly boys, but they walked a different path: one had a strong feeling of fear and hatred toward those tall, muscular boys who labeled him as a girl, a feeling so strong and conflict that he will spare his greatest effort doing nothing but condemning those boys, nothing that can bring a pragmatic change to his current status, and, of course, he lived under the shadow; the other one was optimistic and outgoing, which made him doesn’t care that much about how those cruel and mean boys think. 6. I particularly found the chapters on fathers, mothers, and causes of violence interesting and useful. I consider myself lucky to have a hand in raising a son to be a fine man, while also scared sh*tless about all the ways that it can go wrong. Through moving case studies and cutting-edge research, Raising Cain paints a portrait of boys systematically steered away from their emotional lives by adults and the peer “culture of cruelty”—boys who receive little encouragement to develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth. This article describes how teenage boys experience emotional pain in the culture of boy cruelty including “domination, humiliation, fear, and betrayal”(293). Although they both play more with girls, there is still a huge difference between their status in girl’s mind: for the first one, although he do almost everything like a girl, he is still a boy whom cannot share secrets with; the second one seems to have a closer relation with most of girls, and he can even get along with boys, but just more in a girl’s way. Boys Struggle with Depression and Suicide, Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. What are the pros and cons of such movements? Through moving case studies and cutting-edge research, Raising Cain paints a portrait of boys systematically steered away from their emotional lives by adults and the peer “culture of cruelty”—boys who receive little encouragement to develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth.
What these two boy’s example tells us is that there is a possibility of boys evading this cruel, pressing and demanding boyhood culture nightmare, if one can have a mature, out-sided and nonchalant attitude: the first one yielded toward his fear of culture of cruelty which led him to the path of hatred and let it control his mind and behavior, which will eventually destroy his confidence, independence and, the worst, even all his goodness. The second boy, apparently, successfully escaped from culture of cruelty due to his positive attitude which expressed by his optimism and willing to help. They illuminate the forces that threaten our boys, teaching them to believe that “cool” equals macho strength and stoicism. Now, finally, here is the book that answers our equally timely and critical need to understand our boys.In Raising Cain, Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson, Ph.D., two of the country’s leading child psychologists, share what they have learned in more than thirty-five years of combined experience working with boys and their families. As a woman raising a son in a 2-mom household, I have found myself very focused on what it means to be a boy in our culture. ( Log Out / 

I liked this book a lot but I wish it would have had more concrete suggestions of how to protect the emotional life of boys interspersed throughout instead of waiting until the last chapter. The good news is that this doesn't have to happen. Change ).
The good news is that this doesn't have to happen. There is much we can do to prevent it.

So, the culture of cruelty isn’t that scary, and whether it is a positive or negative influence on our boyhood depends on how we treat and regard it. ( Log Out /  Got some good nuggets.